Genesis 2:24 AMP
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
The word cleave in the Hebrew means “to never stop chasing”. If you, as the woman and wife. Continually surround your husband with all he needs to be complete, he will never stop chasing you! That’s a bold statement, I know, but it’s absolutely biblical and as true as true can be! You are making him complete and therefore he desires to be around you. He desires to have you around him because when you are he is complete.
In what ways do we “complete” him?
- Praying for him (lay his burdens at the cross, intercede on his behalf)
- Be accommodating and encouraging (not bucking against the small things)
- Become adaptable to him (this doesn’t imply becoming a mindless robot)
- Be gentle, humble and kind (be like Christ, consider him before yourself)
- Give words of affirmation (build him up, he will become what you affirm)
- Honor him in private (don’t say negative things about him to your family or your children)
- Hold him in high regard, especially in public (tell people how incredible he is!)
I love this prayer from the book, “The Power of a Praying Wife”
Lord, help me to be a good wife. I fully realize that I don’t have what it takes to be one without Your help. Take my selfishness, impatience,and irritability and turn them into kindness, long-suffering, and the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mind-sets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, and self-protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good , faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. Take the hardness of my heart and break down the walls with Your battering ram of revelation. Give me a new heart and work in me Your love, peace, and joy (Galatians 5:22-23). I am not able to rise above who I am at this moment. Only You can transform me.
Show me where there is sin in my heart, especially with regard to my husband. I confess the times I’ve been unloving, critical, angry, resentful, disrespectful,or unforgiving toward him. Help me put aside any hurt, anger, or disappointment I feel and forgive him the way You do-totally and completely, not looking back. Make me a tool of reconciliation, peace, and healing in this marriage. Enable us to communicate well and rescue us from the threshold of separation where the realities of divorce begin.
Make me my husband’s helpmate, companion, champion, friend, and support. Help me to create a peaceful, restful, safe place for him to come home to. Teach me how to take care of myself and stay attractive to him. Grow me into a creative and confident woman who is rich in mind and spirit. Make me the kind of woman he can can be proud to say is his wife.
Be encouraged and know that you are incredibly loved by God… and me!