In this day and age, there are a lot of things that can distract and rob us from one-on-one connections with other people. While social media can keep us connected, it doesn’t always yield, or sustain, deep friendships. We all need people to go through life with. People to celebrate good times and hold us up through the rocky ones. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 says, “two are better than one, because they have a food return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.”
So while we all want good friends, being one is where it starts. Here are 3 ways to be a better friend:
1: Start with a friendship with God
God is a perfect example of how to be a friend to someone. In Galatians 5:22 there is a verse that talks about the Fruit of the spirit; love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. God is all of these things! And with His help, we can be these things to others.
God knows exactly how to handle friendship and personal issues, because He is the best friend! Thankfully, He knows exactly what we need, all we need to do is pray and trust that His advice is the best advice, because it is! (John 14:14, Prov. 3:5) John 3:16-17 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”
2: Get out of your comfort zone
Jesus never said anything would be easy, and you can’t make friends if you don’t get out of your own bubble of comfort. Step out and get to know others in a connect group. Proverbs 27:17 says, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” If you’re anything like me, starting up random conversation with someone is literally the hardest thing. This is when I pray for guidance and clarity before I talk to someone. God immediately puts all my insecurities aside and shows me that I’m worth friendship.
3: When you make a new friend, water them!
Just like a plant needs water and sunlight, your new pal need encouragement and companionship. If they’re going through a hard time, share the gospel with them over coffee, then go out to eat together because you did something awesome! Romans 1:12 says “We can be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith, both yours and mine.”
We can’t live life and do God’s work without taking care of other people because being a Christian means you’re in the people business! Your job as a Christian is to water those people plants, so make sure that you’re not taking your new friend plant to areas that they shouldn’t be in. They need a healthy environment to survive, so you wouldn’t put your houseplant in lava, now would you? (Hebrews 10:24-25)
If you’re feeling lonely, just remember that the enemy wants nothing more than to isolate you from those who help to strengthen you. So in these times, be comforted, because Jesus said in John 14:18 “I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.” You are never alone! God is with you, and so is your army of friends!